Walk Away By David Wygant
In order to grab the woman that you want, you need to learn the art of walking away. Most men will not walk away.
What happens to most men is that they’ll go to a party, find a woman they want to talk to, smother her, and they won’t leave… this results in the woman’s attraction level dropping each minute this continues. The opposite result occurs, i.e., the attraction increases, when you walk away from a woman to whom you’re most attracted.
Take this example. You walk up to talk to a woman you’re really attracted to, you connect and have a good conversation with her for a couple of minutes, and then… you walk away. When you walk away, it gives her a moment to reflect and to think “That guy just walked away. No one just walks away. Most men smother me. How come this guy just walked away?”
It creates powerful intrigue in her mind. She’s wondering who you are, what you’re all about, and how you could walk away from her. It creates incredible attraction on her part.
So then what will happen is she will find a way to find you again at the party. Or, you’ll walk around that party and the minute she sees you, she’ll plant a very seductive, sexy smile on you so you stop. Or, she’ll talk to you about something going on at the moment or ask you a question to reignite the conversation that she was having with you before.
Most guys are afraid to walk away from a woman they’re really attracted to, because it took a lot of nerve to talk to her in the first place. What you learn when you practice speaking to a lot of different women, however, is that walking away from a woman you’re interested in is the only way to see whether or not you’ve connected with her. When you’re in Smotherville - smothering a woman with conversation that may or may not be going anywhere - you’re just talking to her in random thoughts and thus not really knowing if you connect with her or not.
Why do women always go for the “bad boy?” Why do women always go for the guy who doesn’t like them or doesn’t pay them any attention? Because that man has learned the art of “the walk away.”
You need to learn and perfect the art of the walk away, and you need to use it the next time you see a beautiful woman and you talk to her. This is what you’ll do:
After you’ve been talking to her for a few minutes, you need to walk away, let her simmer for five or six minutes or… twenty minutes, and let her see you talking to other people. It’s going to bring out an incredible competitive fire in her, especially if you’re speaking with other women. It doesn’t matter what the women look like, it’s sufficient that they’re just other women. Or, if you’re speaking to men, it also works if everyone is laughing because you’re giving them the best of you. All of the sudden that woman is simmering so much, that she’s going to come back because you have the power of the walk away.
You have to master the power of the walk away in order to attract beautiful women everywhere you go. This is because women love a leader, and women love men who can walk away from something right at the height of the conversation. It’s going to make them want more… and that’s what you need to create. You need to create desire in women, so they want you more.
Thursday, October 30, 2008
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Shit Test Cheat Sheet
Like most guys, when I first started I wanted the perfect line for each test. It's not so much about the lines, but rather the way you respond.
When faced with a Frame Test you have 5 different ways you can respond.
Each type of response gets you + or - attraction points.
For this example, we will look at when things are going great and all of a sudden a girl accuses you of being a player. However, this cheat sheet will work for most other tests.
__________________________________________________ _________
1. Getting upset by a test or losing control of your emotions (-2 PTS)
Hb: Are you a player?
I don't know. I mean, No. I am not a player! No, really. Do you believe me? (guy starts pouting) I can't believe you don't believe me.
2. Responding to the test with logic (-1 PT)
Well lets see, my last GF was in March, 2001. We decided to take a break because she needed to focus on her school work. So... no, I'm not a player.
3. Ignore test and cut thread. (+1 PT)
4. Agree with her & exaggerate. Diffuse with humor. (+2 PTS)
Yep, I'm a total pimp. I have 22, no wait counting you that's 23 GFs. It's kinda hard pleasing all of them in bed at the same time.
This is what most people do (C&F). It works, no doubt. But there is an even better way.
5. Reframe the test as she is attracted to you. (+3 PTS)
Hb: You are probably a player. I'm not fooled.
6yc: So, tell me something. When did you first realize... (pause) you were attracted to me?
Pull her close and kiss her
Here is a recent example of a test I got during an IM conversation.
Hb: Hey, I saw pictures of you from the party last night. Looks like you were hitting on every girl. Are you a player?
6yc: So...you were checking me out huh? Hmmm...
Notice how I ignore her thread (+1) and reframe her test (are you a player?) as she was sitting home and staring at my picture all day (+3).
Take tests for what they are. She wants you.
Reframing (#5) also works well for AMOGs and other people in your life who try to lower your value. Just replace (attracted) with (person is trying to get you to like him b/c he is insecure)
For example
Amog (TD): Wicked shirt dude. My little sister has the same one... but with like the little stripes on it.
6yc: (Laughing) Bro, you don't have to keep trying so hard to get me to like you. I already told you, you are a cool guy.
So next time anyone tests your frame, whether it be your girlfriend or that annoying guy at work, see how many + or -points you got based on your type of response.
Review
-2 pts) you get mad or upset
-1 pt) you use logic
+1 pt) you ignore the test
+2 pts) you agree with the test & exaggerate it (C&F?)
+3 pts) you reframe the test as she is attracted to you
Knowing how to deal with tests correctly is probably the #1 skill you will need in having a successful LTR. If you think you get tested a lot out in the field...just wait until you are dealing with MLTRs (lol)
6YC
No girl ever left a guy because he was too much of a challenge
When faced with a Frame Test you have 5 different ways you can respond.
Each type of response gets you + or - attraction points.
For this example, we will look at when things are going great and all of a sudden a girl accuses you of being a player. However, this cheat sheet will work for most other tests.
__________________________________________________ _________
1. Getting upset by a test or losing control of your emotions (-2 PTS)
Hb: Are you a player?
I don't know. I mean, No. I am not a player! No, really. Do you believe me? (guy starts pouting) I can't believe you don't believe me.
2. Responding to the test with logic (-1 PT)
Well lets see, my last GF was in March, 2001. We decided to take a break because she needed to focus on her school work. So... no, I'm not a player.
3. Ignore test and cut thread. (+1 PT)
4. Agree with her & exaggerate. Diffuse with humor. (+2 PTS)
Yep, I'm a total pimp. I have 22, no wait counting you that's 23 GFs. It's kinda hard pleasing all of them in bed at the same time.
This is what most people do (C&F). It works, no doubt. But there is an even better way.
5. Reframe the test as she is attracted to you. (+3 PTS)
Hb: You are probably a player. I'm not fooled.
6yc: So, tell me something. When did you first realize... (pause) you were attracted to me?
Pull her close and kiss her
Here is a recent example of a test I got during an IM conversation.
Hb: Hey, I saw pictures of you from the party last night. Looks like you were hitting on every girl. Are you a player?
6yc: So...you were checking me out huh? Hmmm...
Notice how I ignore her thread (+1) and reframe her test (are you a player?) as she was sitting home and staring at my picture all day (+3).
Take tests for what they are. She wants you.
Reframing (#5) also works well for AMOGs and other people in your life who try to lower your value. Just replace (attracted) with (person is trying to get you to like him b/c he is insecure)
For example
Amog (TD): Wicked shirt dude. My little sister has the same one... but with like the little stripes on it.
6yc: (Laughing) Bro, you don't have to keep trying so hard to get me to like you. I already told you, you are a cool guy.
So next time anyone tests your frame, whether it be your girlfriend or that annoying guy at work, see how many + or -points you got based on your type of response.
Review
-2 pts) you get mad or upset
-1 pt) you use logic
+1 pt) you ignore the test
+2 pts) you agree with the test & exaggerate it (C&F?)
+3 pts) you reframe the test as she is attracted to you
Knowing how to deal with tests correctly is probably the #1 skill you will need in having a successful LTR. If you think you get tested a lot out in the field...just wait until you are dealing with MLTRs (lol)
6YC
No girl ever left a guy because he was too much of a challenge
Thursday, October 23, 2008
Xuma Podcast 138
- Don't weasel your way into dating someone. Don't date someone without them even knowing you have intentions of dating them.
- Do not be the emotional man for women, you will get stuck in friend zone. You must first give some sort of sexual intention towards her first, before you can be that for her.
- Women do not want to be your everything. Have boundaries and standards in your life and don not be afraid to show her what they are.
- She can not have the feeling that she could never do anything wrong, that she could do anything she wanted to you and you would never leave.
- Know what you want in a women. Do not just settle with every attractive girl that gives you attention.
- Get comfortable taking chances in your life.
- If a girl rejects you, she's not really rejecting the real you. So don't worry about it. She doesn't know enough about you to be rejecting the actual you.
- Get OK with being rejected, the fact that you can do this and not let it bother you is very attractive to women
Labels:
Carlos Xuma,
inner game,
podcast,
PUA,
xuma podcast
Gunwitch/Way of the Gun-Inner Game
- Know that the drive for sex is just as important to women as it is to men.
- Women are conditioned to hide their desire for sex, so as not to look like a slut among their piers
- Women actually want sex as much as or more than men
- The myth that women only like jerks and not nice guys is just that, a myth. It's actually just an excuse used by nice guys who aren't getting laid. It is backed up by the fact that they aren't getting laid and they just say, 'well it's because I am a nice guy'. It's a vicious circle.
- Do not be needy, you can still be a good guy, just be a sexual being. Feel your desire and run with it.
- Don't try to be sneaky. Just to hang around, be friends and the try to back door your way into a relationship.
- Acting disinterested in a girl is a farce as well. It may work in a round about way to do this, but it is much quicker and just as successful to be direct with your desires towards her without all the little games.
- Don't feel you always need to be 'on' with your sense of humor. Don't try so hard and put so much pressure on yourself to be funny. If a girl is attracted to a guy, she will laugh with him on just about anything he says.
- Men are so preoccupied trying to be different they don't realize they just need to be a masculine man.
- Do not worry about what people think of your girl, only care about what you think of her.
- You do not need money or material things to get women, this is not what they are attracted to.
- A popular misconception is hot girls are stuck up, this is simply just not true.
- Often, a girl you view as a 10 will think that you are a higher rating as well. It's a biological fact that when you find someone your genuinely attracted to they will have a higher amount of attraction towards you than someone that looks just like you but doesn't they are attractive.
- If you approach someone who is hot to you, ecspecially face wise, you will have much more success than if you were to approach a girl who you just find as average and feel you are settling for.
- Women are more submissive by nature. They are attracted by the dominant energy of a man. Be passive as few times as possible around women.
- Workout, play sports, eat right...do all of this to increase your testosterone. Women pick up on this and are drawn to it.
- Stop jacking off, this decreases your testosterone and weakens your desire to be with a women.
- Never think that another guy is better than you.
- Do not take shit from people with a smile. Push for the uncomfortable situation, do not be a doormat.
- Always view yourself as a real man. One that will protect her and your family.
- Keep eye contact. Never look down first.
- People are always more worried what you think of them than what they think of you.
- Your will power is the sexiest thing you own.
- Think in terms of a car salesmen. A bad car salesmen sees a customer and tries to talk up the average car so much that it ends up pushing the customer away and leaves him wondering what's wrong with this car that he's trying so hard to cover up. The good salesmen talks about everything but the car assuming that the car will sell itself.
Gunwitch/Way of the Gun-Logistics
- Keep your grooming and house up everyday as if you could get laid that very day.
- Make sure you know what you want in a girl
- Pick girls that are dressed sexier, they tend to be the ones looking
- Though rare, look for a girl who is by herself. Much easier to approach and dominate the frame
- When she starts giving strong sexual signals, get out fast. Move her, get her isolated.
- Don't play too hard to get, especially if she is already showing signs of being into you
- Forget the ego that comes with being a PUA, like every interaction has to go perfect or you are not a great one
Labels:
Gunwitch,
inner game,
outter game,
PUA,
way of the gun
Gunwitch/Way of the Gun-Outter Game
- Do not be submissive, a jerk or a spaz
- When you offer to buy a girl a drink, basically you are asking her if she would talk to you for 6$
- Don't be an asshole, just be a man
- Don't spaz out. Keep yourself under control. Slow things down. Don't figit.
- Never break the initial eye contact first. This will give you the first impression of being the dominant one to her.
- Keep your head up, look confident.
- Walk with a little swagger
- Stand with a wider stance
- Take up more space when you sit
- Do not let people interrupt you. Just keep talking over them if they do till you are the dominant one
- Buy some boots.
- Act like you are a man who is wanted and desired and act accordingly
- After the initial approach, make her feel comfortable. Assume report with her, act as if you have known each other for some while
- Talking about TV shows is a great way to build report
- Use pop culture and observations in your setting to build conversations with her instead of generic questions
- Don't try so hard to be funny
- Assume sexual report with her
- Be strong in your own frame. Make her drawn to it and believe in your reality
- Do not be afraid to hijack her frame
- When you walk into a bar, pause, take your time...cool...look around and take in the surroundings. Never head straight for the bar to get a drink or the bathroom.
Labels:
body language,
Gunwitch,
inner game,
outter game,
PUA,
way of the gun
Gunwitch/Way of the Gun-Availability
- When you get rejected know that it has nothing to do with you and it is all on them
- Make yourself a sexually available man
- No more masturbating
- Try approaching sober
- If you always play not to lose, you will never win, just go for it
- Do not let your pride get in the way
- Opposed to popular belief, hot girls really don't get approached that much. Men are too intimidated by them
- Don't try to use an extensive game plan on your first approach, you will have too much too worry about
- Socially girls aren't allowed to approach, so they will do other things to get your attention. Watch for these..such as batting eyes, curling hair with finger, biting lip, rumaging loudly through purse
- Be a notch louder and more talkative than others at any social setting. Displays your dominance
- Don't ask a girl on your approach if you can buy her a drink or if she'd like to dance
Labels:
approaching. direct,
Gunwitch,
inner game,
PUA,
way of the gun
Gunwitch/Way of the Gun-Availability
- When you get rejected know that it has nothing to do with you and it is all on them
- Make yourself a sexually available man
- No more masturbating
- Try approaching sober
- If you always play not to lose, you will never win, just go for it
- Do not let your pride get in the way
- Opposed to popular belief, hot girls really don't get approached that much. Men are too intimidated by them
- Don't try to use an extensive game plan on your first approach, you will have too much too worry about
- Socially girls aren't allowed to approach, so they will do other things to get your attention. Watch for these..such as batting eyes, curling hair with finger, biting lip, rumaging loudly through purse
- Be a notch louder and more talkative than others at any social setting. Displays your dominance
- Don't ask a girl on your approach if you can buy her a drink or if she'd like to dance
Monday, October 20, 2008
Richard LaRuina Interviews-Gambler
- If you do enough approaches you will begin to realize that they will generally go well. Girls are nice in general and your fear is in your head
- Once you get it you get it and you will only get better.
- PUA's are not Gods. They get blown out of sets, they don't get as hot of girls as you may think. Stop making them out to be more than they are, they are just like you and you can have as much success as you can handle.
- Gambler uses no canned material anymore
Vince Kelvin Podcast-Opening Non Verbally
- Learn to create akward moments and embrace them. Learn to actually enjoy those moments and look forward to being in them
- Be aware of how expressive you are. Smile more, ecspecially when being Cocky/Funny. If you go in without a smile they will think you are just being a dick. Smile more in all phases of your life anyways.
- Never hesitate on an approach, just go. The more you think the more you think of ways to talk yourself out of it
Thursday, October 16, 2008
Scott McKay-Online Dating Domination Notes
- Start your emails with Re:
- Use something in her profile as header in your email
- lookbetteronline.com and get some examples
- Show girls outside your area your profile and get input from them
- poddating.com
- flirtingintraffic.com
- divorcedpeoplemeet.com
- elitemate.com
- okcupid.com
- hotornot.com
- Get date widgets to increase your social network
- Don't use smileys, winks, cute images or even lol's. They are not masculine. Instead use something like [laughs].
- Never copy and paste emails. Find something, anything, in her profile that you can email her about.
- Do not use email fluff. Jump right into what you are looking for, be direct and keep it short. Always close with your name.
- Your first date should not be a dinner and a movie.
- Make sure you are posting good pictures.
Labels:
dating,
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online,
Online Dating Domination,
Scott McKay
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